blog #4 chapter 15

For my last blog I chose the concept attachment style which means that when children are very young, they begin to grow an attachment on the people who raise them. They depend on nurturance, love, affection, protection, and support. I found this concept to be great because I feel that this concept is true and amazing. I believe that people grow to have this huge attachment with their primary caregiver at a young age because they are the ones who are always around for them. If a parent were never there for their child, that child would grow-up never knowing what it feels like to be loved. That child will grow-up being very distant and have a hard time finding a partner who they can love and trust. I grew-up with a huge attachment on my parents. I have been around them all my life. We do everything together. We take family vacations every year, have bbq's, go to each others sporting event or activities, have dinner as a family, and talk about everything. We are a very close family that supports each other in everything that we do. We take after our parents in the way that we react to people, talk to people, our manners, and everything else that comes our way. Our parents are our role models in our family. We learn from them and love them. They are my attachment.

chapter 12 blog #2

For chapter 12 I chose the concept Reward behavior which simply means when a person is trying to influence another person by rewarding them for praising them. Growing up, I think that all of this had this done to us at least once. As for me, i remember when my parents promised me that we can all go on a cruise on year if I got all A's and maybe one B in all my classes. I worked so hard for that and when I got the grades that they wanted, we were all able to go on our cruise. This happens with people getting their drivers liscense as well. Parents tend to give rewards for doing something in their liking. For example, if a child wanted ice cream, that child had to finish all of his/hers dinner before they could have their ice cream. I sometime see myself giving rewards when a child does something great. I babysit, and when they want to do something like play the wii, I make them eat their dinner or do their homework before they can do so. Almost everyone does it.

Chapter 13 Blog #2

For the second concept I chose to do it on the term loyalty which means waiting for the relationship to get better and improve. It's about being passive and constructive. I chose this concept because I just got out of a relationship where it seemed that for a long time now, I was hoping that the relationship would get better. I felt that I wasn't that happy and never understood why. I waited to stop feeling that way because I invested four and a half years in the relationship. I am happy that I broke it off because I was waiting for something that wasn't going to go away. I did it for myself. I feel that this is something that a lot of people face. They stay in relationships in hope that people will change and their relationship would be happier. In some cases, loyalty isn't always great because sometimes we are just staying in the relationship because we are comfortable. Each situation is different though.

chapter 12 blog #1

For chapter 12 I chose to discuss the concept compliance. Compliance is when an individual changes his/hers behavior or personality because of someone else who wants that person to do so. I I chose this concept because this is the sort of thing that certain individuals tend to do when they are in a relationship. For example, say you had a friend who was always the type of person who did what she wanted when she wanted without worrying if her boyfriend would get mad then all of the. She believed in spending time with her friends and making time to do things with them. Then you start to see the changes in your friends behavior and opinions. She would start saying things such as: "I have to see if I can go to Disneyland because I haven't asked my boyfriend," or "I'm not sure if I can go to the club with you because my boyfriend gets really jealous." It gets annoying and frustrating to see your friend change everything that he/she believes in because they are afraid of being alone or loosing their partner. They give up their freedom and beliefs to accommodate the other person when they shouldn't have to. You see this happening in a lot of relationships.

blog #4 Chapter 10

For my last blog I chose to do it on platonic relationships which could be found in chapter 10. The term means having a friend in which the friendships lacks or doesn't have any sexual involvement. Two people could have an involvement but don't. I chose this concept mainly because there are many people in society that have platonic relationships. I personally have friends of the opposite sex who are strictly just my friends. If we both really wanted to be involved we would be, however, I feel that it would only ruin my friendship with that person if it doesn't seem to work out. Sure people have those certain friends who are known as "friends with benefits" but I choose not to cross the line between friendships and getting sexually or romantically involved.

Blog # 3 Chapter 11

The concept that I chose for chapter 11 was avoiding. The author describes this terminology as actually avoiding contact. It's where people don't even want to see each other becasue it only reminds them on how their relationship failed. All politeness is gone amongst each other. I chose this concept because I recently broke up with my boyfriend and at first we tried to stay friends and remain somewhat close, but then it became too much. He had gotten to the point where he didn't even want to look at me, talk to me, or be around me. I understand why, but it just sucks. All types of people experience this in their life and it's no wonder why people don' remain friends with their ex's. It happens though, and we just need to deal with it and move on.

Chapter 10 Blog #2

For my second concept, I decided to do it on relational maintenance because I feel that in every relationship that a person is in, needs to know how to maintain a great and healthy relationship. In the book there are four definitions that the author provided, but I'm only going to give this one: "to keep a relationship in a specified state or condition-for example, to keep the relationship from becoming more (or less) intimate." I feel that in order to have a successful relationship, there has to be excitement, magic, intimacy, romance, etc....People get bored easily throughout relationships, so keeping the romance alive and well, will increase the intensity and love of the relationship. If there is no repair, no romance, no excitement, the relationship will get old to a certain individual in the relationship. That person might end the relationship because there is no communication between them, or because they fight a lot and can't figure out how to get along or meet half way, it could be because they have no romance or love life, and/ore even because things have been the same for a while and that person is bored.So sustain the relationship, and keep your relationships intimate and special.

Chapter 9 Blog 1

For chapter I chose the concept experimenting because to me this is something that I feel everyone goes through before they find their significant other. In the book, experimenting is looked up as getting to know each other. It's the stage where people are getting to know each other starting with little things that aren't so serious about one another. It's asking questions about what your middle name is?, what your major is?, do you have any siblings?, etc...I like this stage because it's where two people are getting to know each other to see if there's a future for the both of them. It's finding someone suitable for yourself. It's where one can see what's out there. It could help determine a person who is dating, know what he or she wants in a man or woman. It's experimenting with what's out there and what intrigues you about the other person. That's what's great about this concept.

week 3 blog #4

For my last concept I chose positive face needs because I feel that this is something very important to have or to say something to someone especially in a work environment or in your own family. In the book, positive face needs refers to the desire to be with whom we interact communicate messages that reflect appreciation for us and reinforce a view of ourselves as competent, likable, and sharing common interests. It's always very nice to hear when I am doing something great at work, or even having a supervisor say, "thanks for your help." It really makes me want to work so much harder for that person to show that I am a good worker and have a positive attitude. It shows that my supervisor sees that I am working hard and acknowledges the fact that I put in so much in what I do. That's why at work, because I'm more of a supervisor, I always strive to tell the people I work with, "Thanks for all your help, you guys were awesome." Even when it comes to family or school. When you hear from a teacher that your paper was great or "great job on your exam," it makes you feel great inside.

Chapter 8 blog

The concept that I chose for chapter 8 was concession. Concession, in the book, is defined as a simple statement of guilt such as: ("I was wrong"; Yes, I did that"). What I really liked about this concept is that it's such as common concept that people do ans say but don't say as much. I feel from experience that it's hard for people to admit they're wrong. It's very true. In fact, I have a friend who when she does something wrong, hardly ever admits that she was in the wrong. I have even done so myself. For some reason, admitting you were wrong is a very difficult thing to do. Sometimes people just apologize without giving a reason onto what they are apologizing for. This concept is a good concept in which everyone can relate to. It's something that I do myself and to me that just proves that people are just stubborn to admit when they are in the wrong. It's sort of like lack of communication. But when you do get an apology where they admit they were wrong, it's nice and surprising to hear. It makes the communication more sufficient.

Chapter 7 blog

The concept that I chose for chapter 7 was self-disclosure because to me I can very much relate to this concept like most everybody else. The book defines self-disclosure as broadly defined, refers to any information you offer about yourself. Most everyone self-discloses information about his/herself because that individual may not feel comfortable telling another person about their peronal life or problem. There is a lack of trust that one individual could have with another and that's ok. Especially if those two individuals haven't known each other for a while yet. If I just started working at a new job, I wouldn't tell my coworker about my relationship or family problems, nor would i tell him/her what I hate about the job. Why? Simply because I don't know if I could trust that individual. How do I know she's going to spread my business around or tell my boss that I hate certain things about the job already? I wouldn't know if I could trust that person or if that person would back stab me. Another example would be not trusting a person already. I know that everyone has experienced this already. If you work with someone or is friends with some but you know you can't trust her, you wouldn't tell her anything. I have a friend who I met through work and see every once-in-a-while, but when she asks how I'm doing or asks something that's personal, I give short answers because I know she'll tell everyone. I self-disclose myself to certain people as do other people. Communication is a big thing, and if I feel threatened on telling someone something, I wouldn't.

week 3 Chapter 6

The concept that I chose for chapter 6 was dramaturgical perspectives because I felt that this concept was one that every individual could relate to. This concept is about people playing different roles depending on their surroundings and who they are with. People or "actors" perform daily. In whatever the situation is or who it's with people behave and act differently or a certain way to fit in in stand out. The six elements that the author lists: actor, audience, stage, script, performance, and audience are all great concepts that describe each person. For example, if a were to meet his/her boyfriend or girlfriend for the first time, they would probably act a certain way, talk a certain way, and behave a certain way in order to get the family to like him/her. So basically, if you had an outgoing loud personality and were meeting your partners' parents for the first time, you probably wouldn't act or behave in a certain manner where the family wouldn't approve.

Chapter 16 wk 2 blog

In chapter 16, the concept I chose was is empathy. I felt that this was an important concept because it's dealing with helping others and understanding another persons feelings. It's about adopting and understanding the person holding the conversations' problems and emotions that he or she feels. It's definitely different from sympathy because that term is about feeling sorry for another person. Empathy is about providing feedback (negative or positive), to help the other person. It's meaningful to me because I feel that a lot of my friends always come to me when they want to talk about something because I just listen, simple as that. I try to understand the situation and provide any advise that they need. I try to show my friends that I understand dwhere they are coming from and share the same reaction becasue I always stand by my friends. I provide them with advise. I believe that this concept is truly important for everyone to have, know, and understand because to me, it helps maintain and build a strong, trustworthy relationship with whomever it is.

Week 2 blog

For mt third blog in Chapter 14, I chose the word individual differences. I liked this word mainly because everyone can relate to this and have this. Every individual in society are completely different from the way they look to the way the act (behavior). Some people react differently to a certain situation, or like a certain president better than others, some may even have certain and different goals from other people. Whatever it is, people are all different. Through communication, individual differences help us understand people and different beliefs that make society a whole. It helps us get a better understanding of different personality styles that people have and how to deal with them. It could even help in the dating field where person can find another individual attractive based on what they like. Opposites attract and so do people who share similar traits and beliefs.

week 2 blog

The second word that I have chosen for this week's blog was attribution. I really liked this word because it deals with why or how someone behaves or does a certain thing or responds a different way. It's a cause of an action or behavior in which someone reacts to something for a certain reason. I really enjoyed the meaning of this word because everyone has or goes through this at some point in their lives. We all communicate differently and respond differently to a certain situation or problem. If a teacher were to tell me that I was failing the class and probably wouldn't pass, I would be devastated. I would probably start stressing out and crying. For other people to hear that same news would probably react differently. SOme wouldn't care, or some would start yelling, or some may even try to convince the teacher to pass them through bribery. Some people may take it to the extreme and others would let it pass and think, "there's always next time." People communicate and react differently.

Week 2 Blog

The first word that I chose to discuss and was meaningful to me was active listening. Active listening providing and giving feedback to another individual. It has to do with clarifying and understanding what someone is trying to tell you. It's about understanding what it is that person is saying and providing and clarifying what it is. It requires attention and and could be useful when one's goals is to help support someone and can often just be there for support or therapy. This word is meaningful to me because I have been that person in both situations. There were times when I was going through some rough days when I had that one person who I could communicate with me and give me the reassurance that everything was going to be ok. There have also been a numerous amount of times when I was the person who was just there to listen. I am the go-to person when it comes to people having or needing to talk. I am the active listener. Communication is all about providing and receiving feedback, that's how one can become an active listener.

Introduction

Hello class, my name is Natalie Ramirez and I am now a senior at San Jose State. I am a communication major with a minor in Recreation. I should hopefully be graduating in the spring of 2009 which I am very excited to do. I want to then become a recreation coordinator.
A concept that I chose out of the reading was strategic. After reading more on what that term was about I realized that I myself, plan and strategy's my life. right now, I am strategizing my future. For example, I am planning on graduating this spring with a communications' major and become a recreation coordinator with that degree. I am planning on moving out of the bay area after I graduate. Those are my strategic plans, that's what I plan to do with my life.