Wednesday, July 2, 2008

blog #4 chapter 15

For my last blog I chose the concept attachment style which means that when children are very young, they begin to grow an attachment on the people who raise them. They depend on nurturance, love, affection, protection, and support. I found this concept to be great because I feel that this concept is true and amazing. I believe that people grow to have this huge attachment with their primary caregiver at a young age because they are the ones who are always around for them. If a parent were never there for their child, that child would grow-up never knowing what it feels like to be loved. That child will grow-up being very distant and have a hard time finding a partner who they can love and trust. I grew-up with a huge attachment on my parents. I have been around them all my life. We do everything together. We take family vacations every year, have bbq's, go to each others sporting event or activities, have dinner as a family, and talk about everything. We are a very close family that supports each other in everything that we do. We take after our parents in the way that we react to people, talk to people, our manners, and everything else that comes our way. Our parents are our role models in our family. We learn from them and love them. They are my attachment.

1 comment:

Pastel Marina said...

Goofy ,I really enjoyed reading your blog about attachment style. I completely agree with all of your points. It's very true that the most essential communication skills we use to communicate with others we learn from our parents. The same can go for when a parent has personal issue that they are dealing with. Many times these issues can get transfered to the child, making them suffer. I have seen this happen with my family, and also in a really sever case with a friend. Her family had a lot of issues, and she ended up going into foster care. When she grew up and had a child of her own she almost did the same thing to her baby that her family did to her. In the end she overcame her demons, but I think that had her family not given her up when she was a teenager, she would have acted a lot differently. However I also think that even if you didn't get along with your parents when you were younger, once you get to a certain age it's up to you to at least try and improve the relationship, because in the end, you'll be the one suffering if you didn't make the effort.